My two best friends who live in the U.A.E got married few months ago (one of them is already pregnant :S). It’s funny when I remember who they were in high school and college. Here’s what the other one thinks about marriage:
Married: its not bad, its like having a baby! But a HUGE one!! :p
What do you think? so true? or only if you married a typical Arab guy?
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depends, it might be a fucked up non-arab as well..
If you marry a Typical Arab guy, you’ll be lucky and prefer it to heaven. Unfortunately, these guys are in short supply and only half-men are abundant. And usually mixed up with real men.
Allah yib3atlek ibin 7alal … elli yistahalek
Maybe that’s just because your friend still doesn’t have her own real small baby yet, so she tries to think of her poor husband as one albeit she can’t ignore the physical attributes that make this one baby so different from the rest.
Moey, true
Qwaider, lol what the hell, prefer it to heaven marra wa7de? why? how? on what basis? this question is best answered by a woman, sort of like not allowing your wife to witness for you.
Hamzeh, LOl that sounded kinky to me!
typical man?
Well this is spoken by a man - my boss:
All men are dogs…some of whom are good dogs…but are still dogs nonetheless… so i guess this goes for all men through out the world
…It may be true…but I may not wholeheartedly agree with it…
N.E. way…this question is best answered by married women…and men for it’ll be interesting to get the man’s perspective as well…
According to my friends and family members who are married,(and they include both men and women) marriage is a beautiful mixture of everything …it’s a discovery…a steep hike, enjoyable but requires hard work…each day is unique…one of the most beautiful part about marriage is that it’s a team effort…each having to give their best to make it work…
hmm , well the core in responsibility and commetment …
: )
share things and baby too : P
Yes Shaden, prefer it to heaven. A good man, is just like a good woman, a rare thing to find.
Many consider themselves to be this AMAZING person when they’re nothing, and have done absolutely nothing to deserve it.
It’s enough that the “typical” Arab man gives out EVERYTHING, maher, Shabkeh, house, furniture, wedding party … gives it all, and he has not even had anything to do with the woman.
Do you think any “typical” other guy would do this? In India, Men get the dowry, and in the west, other than the diamond ring, she gets absolutely nothing.
I think if you look objectively you will find that the Arab Woman is so respected and so much stuff are thrown at her feet, including but not limited to “dear life”.
So I don’t think I exaggerate when I say that some will prefer it to heaven
> What’s it like to be married?
Boring?
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Shaden, we could always get married and find out?
Qwaider:
So you agree with me that good men are rare commodity, and rare is not typical. Hence, the typical is the opposite of a good man. And that’s exactly what I was saying
What does this have to do with anything?
Thats not true. First, the groom does not give all of that, most of families share the expenses. Second, none of the “EVERYTHING” is important to me for example. So at the end of the day, I’m left with that typical man. And maybe you need to be reminded that money is not everything? It’s interesting to hear that from you, a typical Arab guy living in the U.S (no offense).
Comparing Arab men to other men will not make them any better! It’s like saying Nancy Ajram is conservative just because others are even worse. Sorry for the silly example.
The ring, your money and everything you give are really more like gifts, if you can afford it why not? I’m sorry but if a guy who’s doing well financially, complains about how much money he paid (or is going to pay)then there’s something wrong with him. He’s either cheap, or is so full of himself, selfish, spoiled or all of that. I bet you expect your future wife to give her life in exchange of what you give don’t you?
Nothing is thrown at our feet, I think as a woman I know better about this than you do. Arab women, in general, are respected nobody can deny it. It’s not respect that is the issue, it’s the mentality of dominance, control, and superiority. And sadly, your reply proves me right. Instead of talking about helping your wife around the house, empowering her and treating her as your friend and partner you talk about how much you paid to get her and how grateful she should be to have someone like you, because you think she could do worse by marrying an Indian
Iman, I wouldn’t say that about men (the dogs analogy) because God knows what does that make us.
MQabbani, well and love too
John, lol I’d rather ask my friends and be grateful that I’m single
Looks like I struck a chord here. Nice, thanks for the detailed response. Full of … well … baloney!
You know very well how much expenses a “typical” Arab man has to incur these days to get married. If you don’t know, excuse me you’re not being the least bit objective.
Families share? Since when!? Only on extremely rare occasions does this happen. If you also don’t know about this, ASK a million people will tell you.
Everything is done in good fate from the man’s side things women of the west (sorry for comparing) would only dream of asking the guy for
Being a woman gives you absolutely no privilege over anything, just as you would know nothing more than a gynecologist (regardless of his/her gender) about feminine matters. No disrespect (AT ALL) meant and totally used as an example.
Now, an Indian to me is no less than An Arab, And American or anything and I don’t look down upon people of any race, nor do I do that when considering women. So please, don’t put words in my mouth, your misunderstanding doesn’t mean me being condescending but rather means that you misunderstood something and took it for the negative.
When considering what the man gives out, it’s not a financial matter, and excuse me, but YOU took in that direction. I’m saying he didn’t even know if she’s even a proper match when he has already done all of that, better yet, he still need to pay her extra if they discover that they’re not fit for each other.
Correct me if I’m wrong but you really can’t have the best of both worlds, you either be a western woman and SHARE everything with the man and therefore have the right to half of everything. or you share nothing and just receive and at the end you still receive what was agreed upon. You can’t have both
I don’t see anything wrong with men sharing responsibilities, helping around the house..etc ..etc, UNLESS he’s the SOLE bread winner of the house, and this is what mean by people over valuing what they’ve done, If he has to work outside of the house for her to be a stay home housewife, then SHARING actually means that he did his part outside.
Now, if they had kids and she really needed help, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with him lending a hand and often times, and I’m talking 90% of the people I know who had kids, the husband would take part and help his wife.
Thank you for considering me a “typical” Arab man, I’m working (HARD) on getting better. And Insha2allah I will make this earth heaven for a single person who deserves it. And I’ll have her mail you how atypical I really am! But it’s so easy for you to misunderstand and pass judgement
lool married is fun..ask me. There is so much pressure on newly wed couple to produce something that will keep the mothers in laws off yoiur back, and thats is by the birth of ur first child.
signed: Hapy dog
lool
i suspect having a relationship with anyone makes an illusion that you cannot live without that person. in fact one could probably live relatively successfully with any number of different partners.
i.e. i don’t believe goodness is a rarity, and i don’t believe the one you happen to be with has a monopoly on goodness for you!
marriage is an interesting thing.
Shaden, you laugh at my marriage proposal and say you are happy to be single - i wonder why grateful to be single? (most curse singleness!) how great our futures could be together mon cher.